Tales Behind the Chair..... Those Moments...

    Those moments when you realize the difference you make in a persons life.  I have a handful of clients that view me as a machine that I am only there to do their hair and be a sounding board, but other than that, they don't seem to think I am a living human being that gets ill, sad or tired.  They don't seem to realize that I too value time with my family, friends and that I too enjoy being home to have dinner with my husband and daughter or spend a full weekend with them.

  Then there are those moments.  Those moments when the most likely and unlikely clients all of a sudden, have your back, want to fight for you, make sure you are OK, check in on you, cry with you and for you and generally take over telling you to stay home, eat, get better and the ones that really know me, gently yell at me when I still think I am 20 years old and can just power  thru this illness.  I have never been sick in my life, and with it turning into pneumonia and ending up septic because of all the infections I had going on in my body without resting completely, it nearly put me into the hospital and I will probably takes months to fully recover.

     This is the moment where my army of loving considerate clients come in, the clients I now realize are my friends.  The clients who refused to come in until I was well, or at least felt up to it, and those clients are the ones that brought me wellness tea, protein bars because they knew how much weight I had lost, refused to get into my chair until I ate, brought me essential oils, vitamins and a vaporizer , texted me, called me and checked up on me daily and either stopped by with soup, sent me cards or offered to come sit with me, clean my house or bring me food.  Some of these clients are still checking on me daily.  I never expected the outpouring of love and consideration and realize that these are the reasons I have been doing hair for 27 years and probably will into my 80's.

     What about the Handful of clients that couldn't or adamantly refused?  Yes I had one send me a text that said "I am sorry you are so sick, but that is not my problem, I pay you to do a job and I have a very important meeting next week I need to look good for, so I will see you at 2:15 regardless... I will bring you soup."  That Client was 35 minutes late, brought me a can of condensed Chicken and Stars soup and even though I could barely stand up and had a mask on , told me not to talk to her because she could not afford to get sick.  That night was my second trip to Urgent Care.  She is also the client that has no showed me at 5 am and then demanded I get her in because her hair looked terrible, which it never has more than a 4 week outgrowth.  She has 2 strikes, I may even let her go before the 3rd.

     Because of this eye opening experience, I now have a compromised immune system but I have also learned that it is OK to take care of myself. My health is more important, losing a day or even 3 of work is better than the total of 9 days I had to reschedule and I also now know the clients I want to keep around, want to keep me around as well.  I guess I now realize they love me every bit as much as I love them.  Thank you too all of my Angels whether you were Hardcore or Sweet.... I feel it, and I love you too.

   

I have Overcome...

I have overcome childhood, teenage years, being a mother and a professional.

Being homeless, having too little, having enough and having too much.

I have overcome being used, being abused both mentally and physically.

Being scared to feel, scared of touch, needing love, desperate to feel warmth.

I have overcome laughter and tears, dreams and fears with uncertainty.

Being in love and in hate, scared to death to breathe and scared  to death not to.

I have overcome life, death, joy and pain both physically and mentally.

Being successful and losing it all due to  lifes simple mistakes.

I have overcome being a victim, prey, scared to wake up.

Being overjoyed in life and in a blink of an eye, that joy is snatched away.

I have overcome my fear and am strong emotionally today.

Being content in who life has made me.

I have lived to speak of the unspeakable.

Being unafraid of speaking the truth.

I have Overcome......

Being Lisa.....

Day 2 of the Tooth Adventure.......

Really! 30 minutes of being on hold and pressing buttons.....

 Day 2... Whelp, apparently I have a Dental HMO....... have you ever heard of such a thing?  I have not. So the Oral Surgeon I was scheduled with on Monday of course is not Covered.  After scouring over my HMO website I found a list of Oral Surgeons that are covered under my insurance.  As this is a drawn out process and I have now got to be referred to one of the following offices.  Please if you have had any experiences ...Good or Bad... let me know.  Dr. Cirelli's office is closed until Monday so I can only rely on you my friends to guide me down the right path.  Here is my list, please let me know yay or nay!

Not Toothless Yet!

1. Gentle Dental on E. Moana
2. Northwest Reno Smiles on Maeanne
3. Reno Smiles Dentistry on S. McCarran
4. Nv. Dental Specialists on S. McCarran Or N. McCarran
5. Reno Modern Dentistry on Damante

Love you all.......please advise so I have some sort of idea which way to go!!

Listening to your body.....

Keep Smiling...


As a mother, I keep on trucking.  As a woman...I do the same.  There is no time for me to get sick.  Heck, this is the first time I have blogged in almost a year.  Since Emerson graced us with his amazing presence.  I have been working my usual crazy hours and also volunteering at the Reno Aces games to help supplement Stevi's cheer fund, babysitting Emerson any time I am able to, which is usually on Saturdays, keeping up with the household and bills etc.  I know, just like every other mother in America.  But I have not been feeling well. As a matter of fact, I have had the flu and "food poisoning" symptoms over and over.  Me.... self diagnosis.... I am exhausted and need a vacation, or I just need to slow down, or I am biting off more than I can chew, how about this self diagnosis....I'm getting older,  or it must be my hormones.  This one always works for me too,  "I have terrible allergies this year!'  and "My arthritis is getting terrible." so with a self diagnosis, there must be self medicating that follows as well.  Allergy medicine, Vitamin B-12, Nasonex, Advil, Aleve, Aspirin, Excedrin and of course Tylenol and decongestants.  But keep working and go to the gym no matter how tired you are. There is no rest for the wicked.

Now lets go back in time around 20 months ago.  I remember when because it was the month that Jay moved down to San Francisco.  So not only were we supporting two households and a very busy teenager, but we did not have dental insurance anymore.  I broke my crown on my tooth.  It hurt, but not enough to warrant an emergency so I did what any busy mother would do and called my good friend who works at a dental office and had her look at it and she filed the jagged edges down for me until I could, take that back, needed, to get it fixed.  It bothered me from time to time, but I have always had sensitive teeth so I would wince and get on with life.  Over the last few months it started to bother me more and I was more aware of it than usual, so I tried to not chew on that side and took Advil or whatever pain reliever we had in the cabinet when it bothered me.  Our dental insurance was put back into effect in January, so I decided to make us all dental appointments to get much needed check ups and cleanings, I booked mine first.
A. Because my schedule is the most flexible.
B. My tooth was starting to hurt worse.

Our dentist retired right around the time our insurance quit carrying dental and because my girlfriend worked at a dental office, we decided to switch over to a new office because we had been going to Dr. Crouse for at least  18 years and it just wouldn't be the same.  I was happy to hear that although it had been 6 years since my last visit to a dentist, I had one small cavity and hardly any plaque build up with healthy gums, until the X-ray portion.  My broken crown is now an abscessed tooth with a fractured root.  I go in Monday to have it pulled, I am on Amoxicillin for the infection and have to be prepped for an implant which apparently takes around a year to complete. I was told I may need to have my jaw repaired with mesh if the infection is bad enough.  This explains why I haven't felt well, my body has been fighting this infection and trying to tell me something was wrong.

Aging is never easy on a woman, or probably on a man for that matter.  After getting over the shock that I will now lose a tooth, I laugh when I realize I feel the same way as I did when I was put into Bifocals 6 years ago. So listen to your body, If you are squinting, get yours eyes checked and for Christ's sake, if you break a tooth, don't wait until it has it's own heartbeat to get it checked.
Dr. Cirelli Family Dentisty
The blessing in this is that, we now have a wonderful new dentist... Dr. Cirelli, with a great staff, Donna at the front desk is great and makes you feel right at home as soon as you walk in the front door or call, Debi, my dear friend and dental assistant who has always treated me as an old friend ever since the day we met and my new hygienist Tara who made me feel great by telling me what a great job I did taking care of my teeth. I will let you know how this all goes, my own fault, but since this is all new to me, I thought I would blog about it and take you along on this journey so maybe you will get that cleaning and check up you have been putting off.  And if you need a new dentist I highly recommend Dr. Cirelli and his office, not only is he  right there in the moment with you talking to you instead of at you, he personally called me himself today to make sure I was okay and gave me his number to call in case the pharmacy didn't fill my prescription in time , he said he would personally talk to the pharmacist.  Im happy we found a new dentist and not looking forward to my surgery on Monday, but glad to get it fixed and move forward with the next step. I should be back to work on Tuesday...so lets do this!Dental Care by Owl City

Welcome Emerson Ray Lynch!

Emerson Ray Lynch 8-12-13 21.5" 8lbs. 7oz.

 Welcome home Emerson, we have been waiting for you.  Ever since I saw your Mommy and Daddy fall in love, I thought about how beautiful and amazing their children would be.  Boy did I underestimate them.  Just look at you. You are simply perfect.  Not a flaw.

Jayson and Guoda's Wedding Day 6-30-12

You are such a big boy, just as we knew you would be, and wouldn't you know that when we came to meet you, your Mommy looked just as beautiful as she always does.  And happy, calm and content.  Daddy held you proudly in his arms and Grandpa Billy and I couldn't wait to hold you as well.  Great Grandma Harrington and Great Grandma Coo-Coo came to see you, but Grandpa Lynch was sad.  He has to work today in San Francisco and was so happy you finally made it but it broke his heart that he couldn't be here.  He is going to take a week off for Labor Day weekend so he can get to know you and bond with you.  Pappa loves you very much and would be here too if he could, but we know some day you will understand why.  Grandma Vilijia was there when you came into the world, and Mommy said she did very good being supportive and quiet.. we are all very proud of her for doing such a good job letting Mommy and Daddy concentrate on getting you here for us to meet.

The Great Grandmas

 You will also be happy to know that Great Aunt Angie and Great Aunt Tyra and Auntie's Stevi and Bri also came to see you, and Auntie Bri just got back from South Africa YESTERDAY!  Someday I'm sure she will tell you all about how the Alcaida  blew up the airport and she almost didn't make it back...scary!

Pappa and Glamma Lynch (and Great Aunt Dottie in the back)

 You were born into a very large and crazy family, but luckily a family that is FULL of love.  You will be so loved and cared for by each and every one of us that you will never want for anything and you will always have a huge selection of people to go to whether you need something or just need to talk.

Grandpa Billy and Grandpa Jay getting down!

 We are so happy and proud of the good job Mommy and Daddy did while you were being nurtured into the beautiful boy you are.  Daddy attended to Mommy's every need and Mommy took very good care of herself and exercised, ate right and was careful about everything she took, whether it was vitamins or food, she made sure first of all that it was good for you.

Glamma Vilijia and Guoda

Hart is here waiting for you, and right now he is a little bit confused because Mommy and Daddy haven't been home, but we sure hope you like dog slobber, and if you do, boy are you in for a treat, because I am sure you will be covered in it from head to toe and have a best friend right away.

Glamma Lynch and Auntie Stevi

It's been a long couple of days for Mommy and Daddy. They are at the hospital with you now, so get some rest little buddy, because when you get home you will have more love and attention than you know what to do with.  These years will go by too fast and when they do, I hope you know, we can't wait until the next day and the next day, because you will be special, just like your Mommy and Daddy are....and you will be nurtured to reach your full potential and learn to love like crazy, because that's how we do it in this family.  We welcome every moment and everyday.  We love you.


                                                 Love Glamma Lynch

Hairdressers and not machines....nor are we on salary.......

 First of all... this is not directed to any one person, as there have been repeat offenders over the last 24 years of my career.  So speaking for all hairdressers, I am going to clear the air for some misconceptions and some things that we deal with on a daily basis that may be overlooked from a clients point of view.  Again, this is not to hurt feelings or point fingers, just a friendly reminder, so if you read this and you are a hairdresser , or love one, please feel free to re post this blog or link it.

We are not on salary, nor do we get a paycheck, unless you show up for your appointment we don't get paid.  If you forget your money, or a check at the grocery store, you can't leave with your cart full of groceries and pay when you remember or it is convenient for you, or when your account has enough money.  Please remember... we pay to work where we work, whether you show up and pay us or not.  We purchase supplies to do your hair, and pay use tax on the equipment we need to do our jobs.  We get paid daily, therefore, many of us pay our bills daily, depend on that money for gas and groceries, because believe it or not, this is how we pay our bills as well and keep food in our families mouths and a roof over our heads.  We are also in a 35% tax bracket and pay multiple business, state and board licenses to continue to work, as well as travel and payments for ongoing education.  Did you know that one pair of shears can cost anywhere from $350-$600... Many of us have more than one pair... just like with a carpenter, each tool does a variety of things. Chances our, we have confirmed your appointment, have done the math and figured that we can put that rent check through... yes, you shouldn't count your eggs before they hatch, but you also shouldn't go receive any sort of business service or transaction and feel that it is not a priority to pay.  Recently I had a client forget to pay, which put me in an uncomfortable position to where I had to ask her a couple of times when she could pay me... In the meantime, my account went over by a mere $8.68, which made my rent and power bill bounce.  After said and done, 5 boxes of color and bank fees, not to mention my time.... it actually cost me around $50 to do her hair....

Ongoing Education is not free and is an important part of staying ahead of the game.

 Most of us are booked, you cannot text or call us at the last minute and say "I can't make it today, just move me to the same time tomorrow."  We may not have that open, we, believe it or not, have more than one client...And we never put someones priority above anyone else, please remember, we are running a business... we don't have office workers we can delegate to so we can do 3 or more people at once.  We can only work on one person at a time, we only have 2 hands most of the times, they are covered in color.  A lot of hairdressers double up, I used to do that and in "emergency" situations sometimes it has to be done, so if you need an appointment you need to realize, we need to see where our opening are... and I work from 4 am to 11 pm.... but only in 8 hour blocks so if I am working until 10 or 11 pm... no, I can't squeeze you in at  5 am on that same day because it is not my emergency that you didn't book ahead and you are leaving on vacation tomorrow, and forgot to call me....please realize we are people pleasers and this stresses us out and makes us feel guilty so many of us will bend over backwards to get you in.....but you need to be considerate and flexible as well.

A gift from Irene Goreham, Helene' Curtis' first female platform artist...back in the day!

Last but not least, illness.  If you are ill and call in sick to work... why on earth do you think it is OK to come get your hair done?  Oh you didn't want to miss your appointment.  OK we get it.  But we would rather reschedule you than ending up sick for 3 days and have to inconvenience and reschedule 30 clients, not to mention the ones we got sick before hand and spread your lovely illness around. We don't get paid sick days... and we never get rest when we get back, just like normal human beings, we are exhausted after a serious flu, but then we come back to double days, or 16 hours days to get everyone in that we had to reschedule.  So please, if you are too sick for work or anything else please reschedule.  I would think this were common sense, but sometimes I feel that people view us as Robots, not human beings and also that we do this for fun.  Yes we do, but believe it or not, this is how we make a living, and we don't make the money it seems we do because we have expenses and overhead that has to be paid for us to continue our craft.  So next time you get your hair done,  please remember these things.  We love many of you as friends and clients, we bend over backwards and make you a priority every day.... please respect out business the same way.  Thank you.

Stop and breathe............

Liquid Gold 5K

 I try to focus my days around exercise because it is so important. So why is it when life gets hectic that seems to be the first to eliminate?  Instead of saying "No" to anybody else, I say no to myself first.  Today, like all of my days is very busy.  I was planning on going to a Get Fit class at KOR but like usual, my cell phone started.  I had 14 messages to return that started at 6 am, some family, some friends, some clients.  You may say.... "Let it go, get to it later..."  In my world that is just not possible.

An average "7 mile" stroll with my Mom

 So here I am, with a few minutes to write, which I promised myself I would allow a few minutes a day for since it is therapeutic, and relaxing to me.  Plus it helps clear my mind a bit.  I have a yoga mat and some weights at work, but this week, I don't think I will have a few spare minutes in my schedule to get anything in, which mean I need to run tonight at 10pm.... which Jay won't allow me to do, but maybe if I take the Boxer with me and my gun it will be OK?

2012 Color me Rad

Somehow this week I also wanted to fit in an Al-anon meeting, get my workouts in, work full time, be a mom, aunt and friend, as well as entertain family during Hot August Nights...Oh and attend a Sunday morning Sweat with my sister. Like the little engine that could..."I think I can, I think I can."  I will take the next few minutes I have left before I need to get ready for work to start my "Squat Challenge"  from the Squat Crew...It seems like as soon as I decided to sign up for next years Tough Mudder ,my brain started doing karate, blocking my workout schedule and drive.

Doing the Liquid Gold 5K on Saturday I met a girl that sells the ItWorks http://www.myitworks.com/ products and I decided to have a Wrap party as well as become a distributor since it fits into my lifestyle, my family's lifestyle, a lot of my clients and I know I can sell all of these products at Menage' a Trois, as well as offer a 45 minute wrap treatment with a service. The wrap Party I am trying to have will either be August 31st or September 7th, just waiting to hear back from the rep.  If you are interested in coming to the fitness and weightloss party, leave me a comment on this blog, message me via FB or text me.  Have an amazing day......I have 12 minutes to start planking and squatting .

Seattle vacation and swift getaway...

Charlie's Angels

After years, 8 to be exact of no vacation, last year I took a week off for much needed rest and ended up spending the whole week searching, buying and reserving an RV and a space for Jay so he could move to San Francisco to work, I took a week off to go visit Lilly and Stella down in Seattle and made it a road trip with Stevi.  The 13 hour drive isn't so bad when you have help driving and someone to keep you awake.  Stevi says she did most of the driving, I would say we split it pretty evenly.

Stella, bathing Beauty

 Stella, Stella, Stella.  Oh my Gosh, I am in love with that sweet little angel.  She is such a joy and so well behaved it is unbelievable.  As much as we drug her around, she was my backseat conversationalist and constant companion.  Eventually as the week went on, she would cry out when I walked by her room in the morning and come over so I could kiss her on top of her head.   Such a cheese ball, loves funny cat videos! If ever you want to hear that little Angel belly laugh just show her one on YouTube and it is on!

EMP  Guitar Sculpture

 One of my favorite days was the day we went to Seattle.  We spend a day just exploring, Pike Street market which back 23-25 years ago if you remember the old Levi's commercial, is the place they would throw the fish back and forth over the crowds.  Still as crowded as ever, a true farmers market, not like the drunk fest we have here in Sparks on Thursdays evenings.  Oh and then there is the famous Bubblegum wall.  The alley where a lot of underground concerts happen and since Seattle is so music driven I'm sure many greats, Pearl Jam, Hole, Nirvana etc. had many a fan waiting to hear them before they hit it big and stuck their bubblegum up on that wall.  Stevi thought it was gross, I guess it is, but that is part of the beauty of Seattle, call it art or weird, but it is what it is.

Bubblegum wall at Pike Streets Market

 We had an incredible dinner at the Space Needle, luckily we were able to get a reservation, which Stevi called and got for us.  Along this trip, I also acquired a beautiful 1898 Singer Sewing Machine from Lilly and a few things that she did not want to pack up for her move to Germany.  We stopped in Beaverton, Or. for a nice lunch and walk-about, to get an Oregon Ducks shirt for Stevi's boyfriend and then it was back on the road for the long trip home.

Road Trip, time to stop and take a break.

 I won't see Lilly or Stella other than Skype for around another 2 years, but I will tell you this, I will be getting our passports and we will make our vacation in 2015, when Stevi is 18 and Graduated from high school, in Germany... plenty of time to plan, prepare and save.

Me and my Lilly, love this girl like my own!

I love you Lilly and Stella, thank you so much for constantly embracing us as your family.  I wouldn't want it any other way, we miss you already.  Have a safe move and flight to Germany, and get back on that Blog so we can follow your family adventure!

Yeah Yeah, I know........

I know, it's been since November.  A lot has happened.   A lot of bad, A lot of good.  A lot.  this time I chose to suffer in silence.  And as usual, I pulled through.  What I did learn though is that I need to keep my faith in something greater, work on me for me and enjoy life.....each day as it comes.

 My Mom and I started to donate Blood and started with a Blood drive for all of the radio stations.  As usual, there are raffles etc. and I won!  I won a Spa package for 2 at the Atlantis for a mud ritual and a day at the Spa.  Since Jay is no longer in Reno, I invited my Mom.  She didn't sound too excited and I really wasn't either, life is so busy, who has time for these things?  But it was free and I guilt tripped her into going by telling her that I would just go by myself.  AH-MAZING!  It was like being on vacation.  Neither of us wanted to leave and I can tell you,  it was the most relaxing day I have ever had, I think literally!

We went in our gym clothes anticipating a workout in their fitness center.  My advice to you, workout first or you NEVER WILL!  We spent around 4 1/2 hours doing nothing but relaxing...Next time....Oh and there will be a next time......I am going earlier so I can waste my day turning into Jello and leaving in a Coma.  What a day.......much needed, highly recommend it, even if you just go for the day without the treatments, it's completely worth it.  And Mon-Thurs, they give locals a 15% discount.  I think it should be a monthly ritual for all women.  We work hard, we play hard, we deserve to relax hard too!

Today is going to be a good day.......

 Skipping the gym today.... hitting the dirt with my mom. Yay! A hiking day!  My day doesn't start at work until 4 so this makes for a good workout before work.   My mom and I are usually attached at the hip but lately life has gotten busy.  Well namely when Jay moved.  I now fill all my just sitting waiting for Stevi gaps with work when possible, which is great that I have clients that I can do that with, but it sure makes for a weird sporadic schedule.  Tonight I have two cuts at 4...go home, grab Stevi, get her to cheer, go back to do a color, pick up Stevi and stay for a parent meeting until around 9.

So starting my day with fresh air, cardio and laughter....awesome.  Have a great day today all, mine will be... I can feel it!

1st class for me scheduled!

 With Stevi scheduled to take her driving test, I am optimistic and have scheduled another sewing class.  I haven't had the time to finish a few projects, a shirt, a runner and a quilt, a tablecloth, and lounge pants for all of us, so I actually paid for a day of uninterrupted sewing.  Its from 9-3:30 the last Monday of the month and hopefully I can complete these projects before I start to conquer some more.  A good friend of mine gave me, yes gave me a Serger which I can't wait to use.  So for now, that's my goal, to finish all my unfinished sewing projects.....One day a month of no phone, no work, no driving, nothing but sewing.  I'm I a dork....probably...Oh and Guoda....don't plan on your Christmas stocking I started knitting..... I don't think it will ever be finished........See if Liz will knit one for you ;-)

Am I supposed to miss him this much...?

 Am I supposed to miss him this much?  We've lived together since 1985... you would think some time away would be refreshing.  That's what all the other wives tell me.  "Enjoy it!"  They say.

 How can I enjoy it when I look over at the empty side of the bed and long to see him there.  I hate sleeping alone.  I thought I loved it.  I haven't slept alone since June 1986 other than a few bouts of normal marriage woes , snoring, fighting etc.

 Is it normal at my age after this many years to cry because you miss someone so much it actually creates pain in your chest?  Over the years you become comfortable, even resentful at times.   But you are together to get angry with each other and a simple touch, kiss or hug can make it better in a second.  With 400 miles plus between us, I can't just fall into his arms after a bad day, or sit and laugh with him as he makes a romantic table in the front yard with flowers and wine for all the neighbors to see and come tell us how cute we are.

I miss him.  To the point I feel lonely, and angry that the only communication for us is via text or phone calls which I am usually running around with 20 things to do so then I don't give him the full attention he deserves even if for a few minutes. I had my breakdown moment again last night.  I should be able to get passed this but the job is 10 years and I think that is what is stuck in my head.  I know women do this everyday. Even though he doesn't always want to do the things I want to do when he is here...He is here. His presence is soothing. I want to hold his hand, kiss him good morning and good night...nudge him when he snores too loud and feel the warmth of his body at night.  I miss him staring at me for no reason and watching me get ready because he finds it beautiful.

I know we have a long road ahead of us...and you would think being as busy as I am between work, chores, Stevi and opening a new salon I wouldn't have time to think... but its amazing what the brain does to you when you miss somebody this much.  It debilitates you, wears you down and depresses you.  I am keeping as busy as possible, I'm just sad and angry that he's not here . But it's for our future and we are slowly getting bills paid off and paid down.....there is a light...at the end of the RV...

Bonding 101

Xtreme Allstar Cheer Squad 2012

Team bonding is a tradition and has been for years.  When Stevi was made Captain of her cheer squad, the first thing she said was "We need a bonding party".  And she was right.  Last night was a complete success.  Only one girl decided not to come and it is sad because it was definitely her loss.  The girls have not had any time to get to know each other on a personal level, because at a competition level practice, that's all you do is practice.  No personal banter, no laughter, all concentration, all work.

The girls got to know each other , the music they like, all the things that you don't know can put a wedge into a team, the things you learn can weld you together.  They had a few bonding games, blind make-overs, Fugitive to name a couple.  Lost of pizza and soda and laughter.  The most successful sleepover I've ever had at my house.

Our next bonding party will be December 1st... hope the all know how to roller skate!

Shattered.......

Sacrifices made to conquer dreams

can shatter a heart right at the seams

A smile on your face while knowing true love

when the one that you need, you can only dream of

A text, a call, a card in the mail

doesn't make up for trips that will fail

My heart needs to see you and feel you near

daily I wish that your face would appear

I know you are there because of your love

I pray to God and the heavens above

I hope to see you soon and fall into your arms

I miss every bit of your romantic charms

Distance, they say, makes the heart grow fonder

Never again is that a thought I will ponder

So don't mind me as I fall to pieces

Cry all night into my pillow creases

You are my best friend, the love of my life

Thank you for this.......your loving wife

Drama of the Week....Lynch 101

 Drama of the week?  Lawnmower.  We had a very nice lawn mower at one time.  When we lost our home and became renters, the first place we moved into was a town home so of course we sold it.  Our amazing new neighbor across the street gave us her old one, which Jay can start, and apparently only Jay can start it.  Jayson and I have tried for 2 weeks.  We just can't get it to start.

Of course, I stopped watering the lawn about that time thinking it would be mowed.  Then it wouldn't start.  Tried again.  No, no can do.    I got yelled at last night from Jay, for not mowing the lawn, which I've tried, I swear, and for not watering the lawn, which I plan on mowing and I know you can not mow if it is wet.  So I suggested hiring someone just so it gets done.  Wrong suggestion.  He ended up more angry, I ended up crying.  My son and I worked for over an hour trying to start that damn old mower this morning.  I have friends that have said they will come mow the lawn for me...Guy friends which I'm sure won't help the situation, so thru networking, I have a friend who has a mower that needs a primer bulb and he says we can have it and fix it...which may be what is wrong with this one....I think it is just done, its old and I don't think worth fixing.  My neighbor across the street came through again and she is mowing her lawn at 3:30 and said we can use it at 4...score! We will just fill it with gas once we use it, Jay won't be mad at me anymore, I can water the lawn and we can see if we can get my friends old mower and use that for awhile.  Having two separate house holds doesn't leave us any extra money, and I'm sure if Jay came home and just collected unemployment it would be just as bad if not worse.  So that is checked off my list.  I go to work at 4 and Jayson will be mowing at 4...Perfect.

My ideal lawn......

The end of this week is my light at the end of the tunnel.  My mom and I are going to go on a hike...haven't been in awhile, can always use the fresh air and exercise to erase the week.

Always an Adventure.............

Came to SF to Flowers in the kitchen and bedroom (8' apart)

 Nice to be able to come down and visit.  Stevi said we needed time alone too sometimes, Jay and I were both upset she didn't come, but she was right.  Also we are trying to be aware that at 15 almost 16, your friends are the most important thing in your life.  Not necessarily your family.

Hooked up with my coffee mug and laptop, the foot rest is a cooler with a pillow

 Last night we rented John Carter and Hunger Games.  John Carter was ok.  Hunger Games I loved.  If someone had told me Lenny Kravitz was in it, I would have watched it in the theaters for sure!  But I definitely recommend it if it is not on your list of must watch movies.

Woke up to this Sunday morning.

Last night the heater in the RV quit working.  Now Jay has to remove it and bring it to San Jose before it gets cold.  Everything works except the igniter or the circuit board.  Cross your fingers it something cheap, Lord knows we can't afford any more set backs.  I'm staying again tonight and heading home early tomorrow because I don't have to be at work until 11.  One more night of relaxation.

Only had change and was told it was a crock o shit

Street Performers.  Ah Street Performers.  We were watching them and I wanted to give them something but I only had a $10 or $20 so I felt bad and got what change I had left in my wallet so I split it between the 2 guys and one of them said "What a Crock of Shit."  You're welcome asshole.  You are the one on the street begging.  I could have walked by you just like the other 100 people around me did.  Never again.

Lunch at Eagle Cafe'

I'm back to saving all my $5 bills ($5 make you Hollaaaaa!)   I used to do that for my mad money , when I was making money like mad.  Now I am saving it so when I come down to the Bay Area once a month so I have some money to get over the toll bridge and this trip I was able to by some drinks for the trailer, Pepsi and water (I'm a big spender) and we got 2 Redbox Movies and today had a nice lunch at Eagle Cafe on Pier 39 and walked around 20 or more blocks in my sandles , which I know better.  It's amazing how comfortable sandles are until you have to walk for 2 hours in them.  But we had a nice lunch of Calamari, Crab Salad Sandwich and garlic fries so we are both burping up a storm.  I'm sure the trailer smells amazing.  When Jay comes home in 3 weeks, we have a busy weekend of Cheerleading, BBQ and a Halloween party, and Jay's truck is finally getting fixed from the hit and run accident he was in in May.  Until then I will save my $5 bills and hopefully have a good month so we can do more than an afternoon lunch, although movies and just chilling is nice also, as long as we get to be together.

Please excuse the language..........

 Don't read any further if racial slurs are extremely offensive to you...also know, anything said I am saying to tell the story, some of these words make me sick to my stomach, but I will say it as said to tell my story by "Keeping it Real"  The words said would never come out of my mouth as I love everyone and my family is a melting pot of America......I apologize ahead of time to those who read further and are offended.  Ugh....Here goes.....

As Jay and I woke up this morning and had our coffee and showers, we started doing laundry in the laundry mat and took a walk around the RV Park to get some air and kill time.  While we were walking around the back section of the park there was a very elaborate set up and a man hosing it off.  The lady who came out of the 5th wheel reminded me of the lady that Kristen Chenoworth plays in RV with Robin Williams, only older, southern accent and all.  We exchanged pleasantries and walked by.  On our way back we started talking and he explained to us that he was hosing off the dust and dirt he had accumulated from driving 2800 miles from South Carolina.  The boys stared talking about work and we started talking about shopping.  I told Linda about my favorite restaurant The Stinking Rose here in SF and we talked about Vacaville Outlets because she is apparently quite the shopper.  She had on rhinestoned ballet flats in silver with a matching hobo bag and lots of accessories, purple skinny jeans and a blonde wig (an expensive one).  She was all duded up as I talked to her in my KISS t shirt and red converse.  Somehow we started talking about grandchildren and crazy baby Mommas and compared stories.  Believe it or not, she won.  She was telling me her sons ex called him on speaker phone while she was having a "train" pulled on her so he could hear her.  They had to have her removed from their property by the police and she abandoned the kids which they raised for awhile to live her crazy sex driven lifestyle.  At that point Bob said... I told my son he may as well date a Mexican or a Nigger. (I'm pretty sure it looked like water had been thrown in my face, but I don't know that I flinched, taking into consideration that they are from the South and I know there is a lot more ignorance there than in the household I was raised in.)  Then we started talking about shopping again and crazy Baby Momma stories... Linda won again... who knew?  Then Jay noticed the raccoon paw prints and warned Bob about the raccoons getting into garbage and chasing him down to the bathroom one morning at 3 am...his response..."I don't mind the 4 legged coons, its the 2 legged coons I can't stand!"  Um time to go...yup, we left as they were inviting us to dinner and shopping and wine and beer.....Dear Lord, please don't let me drink around these people....I don't want to cause a trailer park rumble.....I can't ....I'm just speechless,  I was worried Jay offended them because he said "Shit Chute"  I wonder if they even thought at all that they may have offended us.....Well they offended me.  Wow, I would never survive in the South.  EVER!

Barium Kit.....Activate! And It was RAD!

 I've been having some "issues" for about 3 months now and so today I start on a Barium Kit to cleanse myself before my procedure tomorrow morning.  I don't feel that the 24 hour fast and liquid only diet is going to help "Cleanse" me since I've been doing a pretty good job of that myself.  So right now I am having beef broth for breakfast and black coffee, yum!  MM MM Good! Yikes.  When I was 8 around 1976 a lot of people got really bad food poisoning from Dairy Queen.  I was one of those lucky kids.  Apparently the type of food poisoning I had also contained parasites so I am lucky enough to still have them in my body.  Yes, after 35 years, they are still there.  They make me sick pretty frequently but never like this so my Doctor wants to check and see what is going on with me.  Hopefully that is all it is and we can kill it again with medicine.  The odd thing that he mentioned is that as often as I am "sick" I should have lost a lot of weight......nope, not that lucky I guess, but that is weird, so we shall see.

Color Me Rad was the most fun I've had in a race.  If you have never done it you have to do it next year.  It's only a 5K so completely walkable for you non runners! It was a blast!  All proceeds go to Special Olympics which is dear to our hearts because my brother was a Special Olympian.

Next, my melt down.  Yup I had a good ol' fashioned pity party last night.  Stress, worry, loneliness, money.  I had myself a great time crying last night and feeling sorry for myself.  Chin up today though.  Great friends who love me and make me laugh and a family that does the same.  So as I raise my glass of Beef Broth......Here's to our health!...Blech!