As you know, I've lost a few friends over the last years to various illness' and unexpected accidents, two of my closest friends lost their brave fights with breast cancer in the last year. My friend, one of my best, was full of life. Loved to laugh, live and just enjoy being alive. Her husband bravely stayed by her side until the very end. It wasn't easy for him, they were soul mates.
I have another friend who I have become extremely attached to over the last couple of years, she is a wonderful, caring, loving, kind and generous lady. Beautiful on the outside but even more so on the inside. She lost her husband 3 1/2 years ago to a sudden, unexpected heart attack. They were soul mates as well. When my good friend's husband needed to talk, occasionally he would stop by. I never knew what to say to make things easier for him. Just seeing the pain on his face was enough to kill me. He came by one day and we made a "talk" date. That same afternoon, my other friend who had lost her husband came in and we began to talk. I told her I didn't know what to say or how to help him......it's a hard thing to do. She offered her phone # and knew she could understand what he is going thru and could give him an ear and a shoulder. So I told him about her and we decided to go for a motorcycle ride, since we all have Harley's. We ended up out to dinner at the Outback and they bantered back and forth as if they had known each other their whole lives.
She hadn't been ready to meet anyone but was finally ready to put herself out there........they became fast friends and have been able to laugh, cry and talk to each other. I never thought about why they both came in within minutes of each other until having more conversations with her, she was not sure if he should be ready to open up, but they were developing feelings for each other, it took her 3 years for her to let her walls down, but with him, he had been preparing for years, this was his wife's second and final bout with cancer. I know my friend, and she would have told him that life goes on and not to dwell. All she would want is his happiness.......so finally after 3 months of their special friendship.......she let him hold her hand........they are taking it slow but God works in mysterious ways and I know my friend who has gone on to better things is smiling down on her husband........and my other friend's husband is smiling down on her. When she came in today we had another heart felt talk, and I got chills and almost cried.....happily.
I never intended to "set them up" it just worked itself out on it's own. They have so much in common, it seems so right for things to have fallen into place the way they have. I will pray for them both, they have both had that one love of a life time and like she told me.......The four of them can make this work. Who knows what will happen, but for now, lots of support and laughter and smiling in a time that may have gone completely different.
I love you both and God is smiling down on you as well.........good luck.