Friday, May 11, 2012

Oh...I'm a "Mother" all right......

What kind of mother are you?  With this Mother's Day approaching, I don't know what I want when they ask me.  Cooperation, help around the house, kindness. Same answer world wide I am sure.

 Each child is different therefore I think even in the same house hold we raise each child in a different way.  Some are easier, some are harder.  Some are boys, some are girls.  I have heard many times....Boys are so much easier....girls are so much easier.  Easier, harder?  I don't know.  What I do know is that a boy is a boy and a girl is a girl, and each child is a person who develops their own individual personality and life....away from home.  Whether we like it or not, just like us......they are an individual.

I am the mom that has chosen a career so I would have a flexible schedule to be able to attend all games, functions, drive them to guitar lessons, bring them to school, pick them up, run to their rescue when the flip a car then be at the hospital all night for that or while they are sick, run them to doctors appointments, drop them off lunch, follow them around school when they are failing.

I have included road trips to amusement parks and paid a fortune for lessons, extra schooling and lately competition and travel teams.  I've bought expensive guitars, amps and clothing, probably spent 10's of 1,000's of dollars in gas and have driven numerous children home, had them stay over for whatever reason and done a lot of free hair in my life to all the "Best Friends"

I have frozen my ass off on many bleachers, sat through rain, snow and 100 degree weather.  I have given up numerous weekends to attend and worked very odd hours to make sure we had the money for the uniforms and extra lessons, fee's etc.  I also am tired.  Every morning (now here's where we may get a discussion going so bring it, I'm a big girl...) regardless of my insomnia...I wake up, brush my teeth and put in my daughters clip in extensions....yes every morning, she was not blessed with long flowing locks, but hair more like my brother Steve, and lately do her self tanning lotion because she also has my Hungarian skin and even though "EVERYBODY" has a tanning package at a tanning place, I refuse, so I get to apply her self tanner so it is done evenly.

Now the grades have dropped so now I am the mean mom who takes the cell phone away as soon as I (or Daddy) gets home.  I am not allowing her to go to the "Pink Out" dance tonight even though she already bought the ticket and it all goes to charity.  I'm also the mom who had my son arrested, at 11 years old, for stealing our BB gun after we told him no and he got caught because he shot the sheriffs son (no he didn't shoot the deputy) in the chest. (That's a story for a different day)  and when my son has gotten himself thrown into jail, always for stupid things like not paying parking tickets, then not showing up for court, etc...I refused to bail him out of jail.  Daddy did though and he still owes him $400 dollars because he gave him back the electric guitar he was holding for ransom to get repayment.

And I just want a little help around the house.  Well, the nail appointment has been canceled due to grades, I refuse to take her to get her drivers permit unless she brings them up, if she doesn't get them up then she will be attending summer school (like Jayson did almost every year) and she "needs" new extensions because they don't last forever, but she will have to earn them, which right now she has no time, because she has gotten herself into such a poor habit of being behind in school its "not humanly possible" to get caught up.

That's the kind of mom I am......I am learning every day, I make mistakes and I often pay for them in my own way........what kind of mom are you?

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Liz said...

Stevi is NOT the kid that gets bad grades. She has always been at the top of her class, getting extra homework to keep her busy and stimulated. I'm disappointed to hear her grades are dropping. I agree totally with you taking away her privileges. Tough love, Bubba! Tough love!

Elaine said...

Stay strong. Stevi will turn around. This is not unusual behavior for a freshman. That doesn't excuse it, but it's not unusual.